This was a comment I was writing for Sloth's latest post, but I thought it was too long, so I didn't want to Bogard her comments section.

Vader dear, you know I think the world of you, but I have to disagree with you.

"spending time alone, and soul searching isnt so bad. its okay to be by yourself, and work on yourself, and your issues."

You know, I hear this from lots of people and I completely agree that this is very important for some people. There are a lot of people that need to find and understand themselves. Lots of people are out there doing their thing, making mistakes, and never understanding why they repeat certain pattern of behavior that they know are unhealthy and that which deep inside they know will not get them to their goals. Even more sadly, there are many people out there who have no idea what it means to live and doesn't have a clear understanding of good goals cause they were never taught, and have never known better. You can't reach for the stars if you've never been seen or been taught about them.

The question is, what do you do when you're done? When you know who you are, your issues, what makes you tick, are comfortable with yourself, and all that other great stuff? What do you do then when can't find someone to appreciate the you that's "realized".

Sure you're sitting there at home, perfectly content with yourself, but you know that you could be that much happier. That much happier if you just had someone to share your life with. You can be content, but that's like being average. It's only the midpoint. Who wouldn't rather be better than average? Being content is important, you're half way there, but it's not the goal. The goal is to be happy.

What the hell do you do then? What the hell do you do when you've done everything for yourself, and have tried everything to find her? Each night, still ending up going into the same empty house, sleeping alone in your bed? Where do you go from here?

How do you tell yourself it's ok when you know you're wasting precious time that you could be spending with that one? There's so many things you want to do with her/him. So many places to see, so many experiences to live. Life's short, and you know you're wasting time.

I guess I'm not really disagreeing with you Vader. Nevermind that first part.



No one's calling for me at the door.
Silently, it doesn't bother me anymore.